Love
does not make you do irrational things. People can get caught up in
love and everything seems idyllic but they're really just replacing
their own reality with what they want to see. When you cannot imagine
arguments or hard times you are not in love. When you have stayed a
relationship longer than you should that is not love, it is blindness
and irrational. True love is very rational. True love is hard and
exhausting. So often, especially in young love, once the couple breaks
up, reality sets in. They find they were never in love at all. After
you break up you find they repulse you. You wonder why you would have
ever degraded yourself in such a way. You notice how ordinary they
are. You find that your mind can play tricks on you and make you
believe that you're in love but it is simply an excuse to leave
reality for a little while. There are many literary examples of people
believing that they are in love later to find out that they were
acting irresponsibly and irrationally. True love is the most rational
and sensible thing in the world. When people act irrationally and
blame it on love it is usually immaturity, stupidity or madness.
Medea, the play, is a perfect example of love not making you
do irrational things. In the play Medea, angry with her husband Jason
for marrying another woman, kills her husband's new wife, her father,
and both of her own children. Love did not make Medea irrational in
any way. Medea is the most rational person in this play. Her lust for
revenge and her hatred for Jason was so fierce that she made a plan
and then followed through with it. Her goal was to hurt Jason and
Medea felt that her revenge would not be complete if her children were
left to live. By the end of the play Jason is destroyed completely.
She was being completely rational by killing her children and not
allowing her love for them to get in the way of her revenge. She was
making a decisive stand against Jason and acted courageously. If she
had simply killed Jason his suffering would have been over and she
would not have been able to achieve complete satisfaction of his utter
destruction. If she were acting irrationally she would not have had an
exit plan after murdering four people. She knew that she had a waiting
flying chariot to take her to safety. Medea is a stone cold murderer,
but she is not irrational.
Romeo and Juliet is another perfect example of love not
making you do irrational things. Romeo is not in love in this play nor
is Juliet. They are just immature children playing around with the
idea of love. There are so many flowery love quotes from Romeo in this
play the only problem with them is that only about half of them for
Juliet. Proof that Romeo is flighty and immature is his complete and
other love for another woman long before Juliet stood on the balcony.
By long before of course I mean one day. All of his abstract language
comparing love to a million things suggest that maybe Romeo knows more
about love from books then actually being in love in real life. Romeo
forgets all about his love for Rosaline the exact second he sees
Juliet. Which would make one think that he was never really in love
with Rosaline to begin with. Wouldn't this also mean that Romeo's
desire for Juliet is nothing more than meaningless infatuation? When
Romeo and Juliet talk for the first time at the Capulet ball Romeo
uses some of his best pickup lines. He touches Juliet's hands and lips
and said it was a religious experience. The only problem with his deep
religious experience is that we have heard it before, he used to say
the same kind of stuff about Rosaline. Romeo is a child and in this
book he acts like one. He is not crazy because of love he is not in
love with anything at all except for maybe being in love. No actual
human girl has his interest more than a week.
Cyrano de Bergerac is another good example of love not
making you do irrational things. Cyrano, Christian and Comte de
Guiche all believe that they are in “love’ with Roxane, yet none
of them are. All of them act irrationally in their interactions with
her, Cyrano can't even talk to her and has to hide behind bushes to
catch a glimpse of her, that's not love. Christian doesn't own the
intellectual capacity to speak with her. Christian is immature and
just believes she is beautiful, and that is not love. Comte de Guiche
sends the other two men to battle to get them out of the way. Which is
incredibly rational. What better way to get rid of your amorous
rivals, but it is not love. Poor Roxane believes that she's in love,
but since everybody is lying to her she doesn't have enough
information to know if any of her feelings are true. All of the men in
this play act irrationally, but none of them act irrationally because
of love.
In the real world there are many examples of people blaming
their irrational behavior on love. One Hundred percent of the time it
is just an excuse. A woman named Kelly Summers posted videos on
YouTube after she found out her boyfriend had a long-term girlfriend.
Summers was devastated and posted 62 videos on YouTube pouring her
heart out and begging him to come back to her. Summers was eventually
reunited with her Romeo who saw the videos and took her back. Love
didn't make her do crazy things, her need for attention and maybe a
touch of insanity did. Is there a single doubt in your mind that this
couple will be broken up any time now? Putting yourself on public
display doesn't mean that you're in love, it means she wanted her 15
minutes of fame more than she wanted her next breath. She could also
use a good psychotherapist. She cannot possibly think the dirtbag who
was cheating on his girlfriend with her wouldn't turn around and do
the exact same thing to her down the road. Her goal was achieved
through these moronic videos. She got to be the martyr saying how
“wronged” she was. The feedback she got from viewers filled the
role as “friends” and she got famous for being a basket case. What
this woman needs is a 72 hour psych hold. She is crazy, not crazy in
love. She is irrational and delusional, but not in love.
Another real-world example is one of the most extreme crazy
for love stories in history. England's King Henry VIII first noticed
Anne Boleyn in the 1520s and he pursued her for years. He wanted to
annul his first marriage to be with Anne instead. The Pope refused so
Henry assumed the role of Supreme Head of the Church of England and
married Anne. He had his marriage to Catherine annulled and he got
excommunicated from the Catholic Church. Henry and Anne got married
and she gave birth to Elizabeth the future Queen of England. Henry was
mad that Elizabeth was not a boy so they kept trying to have more kids
but he never ended up getting a son. King Henry became interested in
Jane Seymour the maid. King Henry was never really in love with Anne.
If he had truly loved her he would've stuck with her through thick and
thin. Henry trumped up charges of adultery, incest and treason against
Anne and had her beheaded in 1536. Love did not make Henry VIII murder
his wife, bloodlust and insanity did.
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